When looking back in my life, during my childhood, I did not discuss my concerns. I now at the age of know age 5, i felt the needed to evaluate what how i felt as a person , looking in the mirror and presenting myself what i clearly saw and how i felt.
Early on i learned it was in my best interest to Play the role of what society wanted. I needed to "role blend" where people would think i'm straight not transgendered. All through hi school , people knew when they look at me there was something wrong.
constantly , people assumed i was" just gay " I was the Boy who never quite fit... Throughout my life i would here when they thought i was not around will say someone such as , "do you have boyfriend?"
I try to get them to realize it. Gender has been more of an issue. I feel like more of my abuse happened because I was a boy with emotional feelings'.
the trauma is rooted in home with abuse from my father and the love from my mother.
I'm remembering from way back when my feeling were to taboo to come out. this was the time were you could not find a therapist. You could end up in electric shock treatment for being transgendered and I saw that happen to people who came out . my father explained to me that people like this are sexual predictor's and bring shame to the family and to every person they come in contact with. Clearly I knew this meant I couldn't work on parts of my self.
My sexual orientation affects me much less now... I came out when I was 40. I knew that I was transgender , but I had one son and I couldn't figure out how to juggle all that. It felt sad because I failed to be a role model for my son because I had no role models.
It is a time to learn more about what it might mean and how best to provide your comfort, love and support to everyone . I learned to implode a new life , that is my ability to help and influence others with love and compassion. with a inside of my life . hopefully with the right support. Knowing that i can have a happy, healthy and maintain a high self-esteem image.
I feel that Youth need access to safe space to hang out with peers, with cool leadership programs and cool activities. If you have art, and fun, then there is a huge therapeutic impact that often doesn’t get funded. Peer support is more accessible to youth who wouldn’t necessarily say they wanted a therapist but want to do a cool activity.
There is also such a link between having your basic needs meet, housing, food, transportation, and mental health. We see a lot of youth struggling to get their basic needs met – housing, food, transportation, and mental health. That affects their mental health, but then they can’t afford counseling. There’s that intersectional part, so many are youth of color, how do we make it safe for them as youth of color, who are gender queer, who are aging out of the foster care system with mental health needs?
Transgender
If you are an adolescent in a family where they don’t have the tools to support you coming into your gender identity or understanding what you are going through, or they are labeling you as sinful, your pastor/priest rejects your mere existence, your peers in your school setting don’t understand what you are going through – with all of that it is very hard not to absorb all that negative stimulus. So you have the negative stimulus that trans people experience, and then a mental health system that focuses in on gender in which is labeled in your community .
There is also such a link between having your basic needs meet, housing, food, transportation, and mental health. We see a lot of youth struggling to get their basic needs met – housing, food, transportation, and mental health. That affects their mental health, but then they can’t afford counseling. There’s that intersectional part, so many are youth of color, how do we make it safe for them as youth of color, who are gender queer, who are aging out of the foster care system with mental health needs?
My early years
Raised in a family where they don’t have the tools to support or the ability to understand what is present not an illusion in which my parents did not understand growing up into your gender identity or understanding what you are going through, or instead you are labeling you as sinful, your pastor/priest rejects your mere existence, your peers in your school setting don’t understand what you are going through – with all of that it is very hard not to absorb all that negative stimulus. So you have the negative stimulus that trans people experience.
I was teased and Beaten by my own dad I was going through a lot more than he could understand or more than hecould ever understand. He would say “my son can't handle teasing at school, so I'm taking him home because he is driving me up the wall”. he joke with his friends. This wasn't a way to teach me to look at therapy positively.
While low-income
I think my sexual orientation did affect my mental health at one point in my life when I came out in to my mom My father was physically and emotionally abusive and it was a lot to struggle with. .... Now I've coped with it... going to groups and therapies. Now I realize I can love myself. But in middle school... it affected me really bad.
therapy was not a option because this out of embarrassment. Made our family cover it up.And my dad who has bipolar, so I grew up with a lot of discrimination towards me . Everyone from family members and neighbors were calling me the crazy person. That was painful to watch. I didn't know how to help her, but I wanted .
Coming out as transgender and discussing my sexual identity took a toll on your income , family and emotional and mental health. It's hard as a queer youth. I used to get harassed and made fun of. People would harass me at school and threw out life. and coulping with family and freind lead to one disaster to the next. People would call my house and leave these stressful hateful messages. My mom would listen and it would stress her. She doesn't need that. I started bad every time people would treat my mother really bad everyday at work about me . Being transgender is not fun . It eats to feel like You're isolated and alone. Why are you by yourself? It's because your school, your family, your community, they won't accept you.
Labels
Does everybody thinks I'm straight when they look at me so or not? or do think it's a pice of the puzzle that doesn't fit... People will say whatever around me because they think I'm straight, I like girls but at the same time they don't understand why I dress like I am gay. ? I always have people ask me ! "do you have boyfriend?" I try to get them to realize it. Gender has been more of an issue. I feel like more of my abuse happened because I was a girl. And the trauma is rooted in that.
I think asking questions about how we experience the world is important. Because no amount of staff workshops is going to instill what it's like to be a queer person. Just ask the questions. I went to a new doctor and there was a questionnaire with a question that I'd never seen before: "do you like your work?" Even the fact that they wanted to know that made an impact on me.
I'm remembering from way back when I couldn't find a therapist. When i was younger i thought you could end up in electric shock treatment for being tg. and I saw that happen to people I knewafter watching one flew over the cook. It meant I couldn't work on parts of my self.
My sexual orientation affects me much less now... I came out when I was 40. I knew that I was gay, but I had son and I couldn't figure out how to juggle all that. It felt like 'all that' because I had no role models.
Huggs
Gidget Groendyk
Gidgetgroendyk.com
Early on i learned it was in my best interest to Play the role of what society wanted. I needed to "role blend" where people would think i'm straight not transgendered. All through hi school , people knew when they look at me there was something wrong.
constantly , people assumed i was" just gay " I was the Boy who never quite fit... Throughout my life i would here when they thought i was not around will say someone such as , "do you have boyfriend?"
I try to get them to realize it. Gender has been more of an issue. I feel like more of my abuse happened because I was a boy with emotional feelings'.
the trauma is rooted in home with abuse from my father and the love from my mother.
I'm remembering from way back when my feeling were to taboo to come out. this was the time were you could not find a therapist. You could end up in electric shock treatment for being transgendered and I saw that happen to people who came out . my father explained to me that people like this are sexual predictor's and bring shame to the family and to every person they come in contact with. Clearly I knew this meant I couldn't work on parts of my self.
My sexual orientation affects me much less now... I came out when I was 40. I knew that I was transgender , but I had one son and I couldn't figure out how to juggle all that. It felt sad because I failed to be a role model for my son because I had no role models.
It is a time to learn more about what it might mean and how best to provide your comfort, love and support to everyone . I learned to implode a new life , that is my ability to help and influence others with love and compassion. with a inside of my life . hopefully with the right support. Knowing that i can have a happy, healthy and maintain a high self-esteem image.
I feel that Youth need access to safe space to hang out with peers, with cool leadership programs and cool activities. If you have art, and fun, then there is a huge therapeutic impact that often doesn’t get funded. Peer support is more accessible to youth who wouldn’t necessarily say they wanted a therapist but want to do a cool activity.
There is also such a link between having your basic needs meet, housing, food, transportation, and mental health. We see a lot of youth struggling to get their basic needs met – housing, food, transportation, and mental health. That affects their mental health, but then they can’t afford counseling. There’s that intersectional part, so many are youth of color, how do we make it safe for them as youth of color, who are gender queer, who are aging out of the foster care system with mental health needs?
Transgender
If you are an adolescent in a family where they don’t have the tools to support you coming into your gender identity or understanding what you are going through, or they are labeling you as sinful, your pastor/priest rejects your mere existence, your peers in your school setting don’t understand what you are going through – with all of that it is very hard not to absorb all that negative stimulus. So you have the negative stimulus that trans people experience, and then a mental health system that focuses in on gender in which is labeled in your community .
There is also such a link between having your basic needs meet, housing, food, transportation, and mental health. We see a lot of youth struggling to get their basic needs met – housing, food, transportation, and mental health. That affects their mental health, but then they can’t afford counseling. There’s that intersectional part, so many are youth of color, how do we make it safe for them as youth of color, who are gender queer, who are aging out of the foster care system with mental health needs?
My early years
Raised in a family where they don’t have the tools to support or the ability to understand what is present not an illusion in which my parents did not understand growing up into your gender identity or understanding what you are going through, or instead you are labeling you as sinful, your pastor/priest rejects your mere existence, your peers in your school setting don’t understand what you are going through – with all of that it is very hard not to absorb all that negative stimulus. So you have the negative stimulus that trans people experience.
I was teased and Beaten by my own dad I was going through a lot more than he could understand or more than hecould ever understand. He would say “my son can't handle teasing at school, so I'm taking him home because he is driving me up the wall”. he joke with his friends. This wasn't a way to teach me to look at therapy positively.
While low-income
I think my sexual orientation did affect my mental health at one point in my life when I came out in to my mom My father was physically and emotionally abusive and it was a lot to struggle with. .... Now I've coped with it... going to groups and therapies. Now I realize I can love myself. But in middle school... it affected me really bad.
therapy was not a option because this out of embarrassment. Made our family cover it up.And my dad who has bipolar, so I grew up with a lot of discrimination towards me . Everyone from family members and neighbors were calling me the crazy person. That was painful to watch. I didn't know how to help her, but I wanted .
Coming out as transgender and discussing my sexual identity took a toll on your income , family and emotional and mental health. It's hard as a queer youth. I used to get harassed and made fun of. People would harass me at school and threw out life. and coulping with family and freind lead to one disaster to the next. People would call my house and leave these stressful hateful messages. My mom would listen and it would stress her. She doesn't need that. I started bad every time people would treat my mother really bad everyday at work about me . Being transgender is not fun . It eats to feel like You're isolated and alone. Why are you by yourself? It's because your school, your family, your community, they won't accept you.
Labels
Does everybody thinks I'm straight when they look at me so or not? or do think it's a pice of the puzzle that doesn't fit... People will say whatever around me because they think I'm straight, I like girls but at the same time they don't understand why I dress like I am gay. ? I always have people ask me ! "do you have boyfriend?" I try to get them to realize it. Gender has been more of an issue. I feel like more of my abuse happened because I was a girl. And the trauma is rooted in that.
I think asking questions about how we experience the world is important. Because no amount of staff workshops is going to instill what it's like to be a queer person. Just ask the questions. I went to a new doctor and there was a questionnaire with a question that I'd never seen before: "do you like your work?" Even the fact that they wanted to know that made an impact on me.
I'm remembering from way back when I couldn't find a therapist. When i was younger i thought you could end up in electric shock treatment for being tg. and I saw that happen to people I knewafter watching one flew over the cook. It meant I couldn't work on parts of my self.
My sexual orientation affects me much less now... I came out when I was 40. I knew that I was gay, but I had son and I couldn't figure out how to juggle all that. It felt like 'all that' because I had no role models.
Huggs
Gidget Groendyk
Gidgetgroendyk.com
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